Wednesday, April 14, 2010
I'm Going to Go Off...
NOW! With all the stress I've been under trying to adopt our precious son who just happens to have Down Syndrome, all I have to do is read a story like this one to make me go completely mad. It makes me absolutely sick to my stomach and all I can do is pray that I have a merciful attitude, but IT'S SO HARD. I'm not sure how Jesus would respond to the couple that elected to do this; and I'm NOT JUDGING THEM...leaving that to God. In fact, I have prayed for them, the doctor, and the millions of people in the world who believe that aborting 9 out of 10 babies diagnosed with Down Syndrome in utero is o.k. Just the thought that a child was chosen to be aborted simply because he had Down Syndrome makes me shudder to the soul. I can't help but have a very primal gut reaction to the whole thing because these children are Jesus on Earth. Ask any family of a child with Down Syndrome. I have never heard a single one say that they would change their child with Down Syndrome to a "typical" child if they had the chance. I have talked to literally a hundred or more families of children with Down Syndrome and they unanimously say they wouldn't change a thing about their journeys. But you know what? The thing that makes me the most upset isn't even the abortion. The thing that makes me the saddest about this story is that they refer to the child with Down Syndrome as a "deformed fetus" and the child that was mistakenly aborted, or the "normal" one, as "the couples' daughter." VOMIT. So why is the child that wasn't blessed with an extra chromosome a "daughter" and the child that was blessed with an extra chromosome a "deformed fetus"?!? It speaks volumes to the way our world still sees children with Down Syndrome. But I'm here to tell you there is nothing deformed about any of these precious children! If anyone ever tells me my son is "deformed," I'm pretty sure it will be the last time they ever utter the word "deformed" again. That's a promise. Because I've got just enough Julia Sugarbaker in me to dress someone down in a heartbeat.
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So, so sad. And so twisted. What is wrong with people???
ReplyDeleteOh that makes me sick!!!
ReplyDeleteThere are always going to be selfish people who think more about what they can handle and want to handle. They will put limits on worth based on productivity and IQ scores. It's sad but true. I know not everyone feels this way, but I have someone very close to me that is stupid enough to believe these things. In the end, most people, in my experience, like this are not happy. They are always searching for perfection, more money, prestige, all that crap. Those people are to be pitied and will most likely never be happy. In the end Tesney, lets hope that God takes pity on these souls and does not expect them to be as perfect as they expect these babies(NOT FETUSES) to be.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with you that children born with DS are not deformed. They're just as awesome and special as any other child.
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This story really makes me feel sick, what is wrong with people today??? Sometimes I can't believe how stupid some people can be and yes I said STUPID!!! Tesney I am with you their is nothing deformed about any of these precious souls, I honestly think they are the perfect ones they are so loving and see no bad in the world !
ReplyDeleteIt said that couple went through invitro to get pregnant. Which means they should KNOW what a BLESSING getting pregnant and giving birth to a child is! Stories like that make me sick to my stomach!
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I were both taken aback. That is awful. His exact words are what is wrong with us! I'm just glad those children don't have to grow up with that family and are now resting in the arms of their Savior.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that is says this family had to use IVF and an egg donor says they were having some problems getting pregnant. I can relate a little. I had to use fertility drugs for some of my children. I always decline the testing in my pregnancies because if God chose that child to be mine then whatever the outcome I would be more than blessed. You would think that they would have felt so overjoyed at the chance to be parents not only once but twice.
I really thought that after I read that they killed the "healthy" baby it would take a better turn and they would be so grateful to have a child that they would have given birth to their little boy DS or not and would have thanked God for the miracle He gave them. BUT..sadly that isnt how it worked out.
I feel bad for them, never having the joy of being parents especially to a child with special needs. The money they spent all to kill their babies, makes me wonder. I feel bad that if statistics are right this woman will never be able to move on to forgiving herself for having 2 abortions and it will eat away at her.
I pray they find forgiveness and find their Savior so that one day they can see their beautiful children again.
They probably won't adopt especially not internationally where they would more than likely in their words find "deformed" children. I guess it is fortunate for the children though that they would not have to be raised by people like that, oh I cant even imagine anyone ever living up to their standards.
You know we as a country think we have come so far, but really we haven't at all.
My husband and I were both taken aback. That is awful. His exact words are what is wrong with us! I'm just glad those children don't have to grow up with that family and are now resting in the arms of their Savior.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that is says this family had to use IVF and an egg donor says they were having some problems getting pregnant. I can relate a little. I had to use fertility drugs for some of my children. I always decline the testing in my pregnancies because if God chose that child to be mine then whatever the outcome I would be more than blessed. You would think that they would have felt so overjoyed at the chance to be parents not only once but twice.
I really thought that after I read that they killed the "healthy" baby it would take a better turn and they would be so grateful to have a child that they would have given birth to their little boy DS or not and would have thanked God for the miracle He gave them. BUT..sadly that isnt how it worked out.
I feel bad for them, never having the joy of being parents especially to a child with special needs. The money they spent all to kill their babies, makes me wonder. I feel bad that if statistics are right this woman will never be able to move on to forgiving herself for having 2 abortions and it will eat away at her.
I pray they find forgiveness and find their Savior so that one day they can see their beautiful children again.
They probably won't adopt especially not internationally where they would more than likely in their words find "deformed" children. I guess it is fortunate for the children though that they would not have to be raised by people like that, oh I cant even imagine anyone ever living up to their standards.
You know we as a country think we have come so far, but really we haven't at all.
This story makes me so sad. It's hard to believe people would go through in vitro and then end up choosing to abort. I can't even imagine. Precious Saviour we have peace because we know that you are holding these sweet babies in your arms. Please have mercy on their "parents" for aborting them.
ReplyDeletethat story makes me beyond sick to my stomach. my son with DS is NOT deformed... this woman is sick and evil and I hope she will be tortured for the rest of her life for the evil she committed killing her unborn children.. Children are a gift, not a choice.. how abortion even became legal blows my mind, it is MURDER.. My son is a blessing and a joy, everyone loves him, his family,his teachers , his classmates... what is wrong with this world, Hitler and Margaret Sanger would be proud.. God help their soul these evil parents.
ReplyDeleteThe wording chosen in this story makes it even worse. I can't believe they used the term "daughter" for the little girl and "deformed fetus" for the boy. How would he be any less their son? GHAAAA people make me so upset sometimes.
ReplyDeleteI agree, that made me want to vomit as well. "Deformed fetus" sounds 100X worse than 'Down syndrome with a heart defect.' I don't know, maybe it's because I have a precious daughter who happens to have Ds and a heart defect. The parents seem to be playing God here, using in-vitro, then aborting both babies. It makes me ill.
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