Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Heavy Hearted

Our hearts are so heavy as we write this. We heard from our agency
today that one of Sergey's family members has come forward and does not want him
to be adopted. According to Russian law, this means they either have to take
him home or find a Russian family to adopt him. We have to believe that his
family members will be taking him home and for this we are so happy. But we are
absolutely devastated over the loss of our adoption plans for him. We are
selfishly heartbroken; but we are trying to remember that this means a child
with DS is going home to family members that want him. He will not be an
orphan, and that is our goal...to not have orphans with DS in
institutions. Also, we are so encouraged to know that the Minister of Education
in the region of Russia where Sergey is must be very concerned about the
children there. He apparently worked very hard on our case and tried to work
with the family members to allow the adoption to happen. I have to believe that
if the family was so persistent in their desires to not allow the adoption, that
they do love Sergey. I also have to believe that the MOE really has the best
interest of children at heart. Please pray for us as we grieve and regroup. We
still plan to adopt a child with DS, but right now we just taking some time to
pray and figure out what God has planned for our family.

27 comments:

  1. Tesney, I am devastated for you and your family. Please know we will be praying for you as you grieve. Huge hugs from Texas! Jill S from RR

    ReplyDelete
  2. Praying for you and for Sergey.

    ReplyDelete
  3. Tes, I am so very heartbroken for you all. We of course know that nothing is certain until we sign that final paperwork, but it is impossible to not bond with these kids. I'm so sorry. I try to remind myself that Amy has pointed out that neither time she adopted did she know the child she brought home with her before the referral. I know that doesn't make you feel better, but that is how I prepare myself for that possibility. I think it also helps to see the children she has, and the absolute knowledge that God knew these two boys were meant to be hers. We'll pray for you and for Sergey as well as your comfort.

    ReplyDelete
  4. So sorry to hear about this. I know you were so excited and proud that he was going to be with you and your family. I am praying that his family wants him and will take great care of him. I am sure God has something awesome planned for you, Greg, and Clayton. BTW: You should have seen his face when he saw the other four kids splashing in my bathtub today! He wouldn't go anywhere near it!

    ReplyDelete
  5. Oh Tesney, I am so sad about this. Praying for you guys right now. Hugs, my friend.

    ReplyDelete
  6. Oh Tesney -- I am so sad about this. I know you, Greg, and Clayton must be too. Praying for you guys. Hugs, my friend.

    ReplyDelete
  7. So sorry to hear this for you guys. Praying that he will be loved by his family and your hearts will heal quickly.

    ReplyDelete
  8. Oh Tesney, I am so sorry! I'm praying for you now as you grieve this loss, praying that Sergey's family will, in fact, take him home, and praying that God's perfect plan and the child that He intends to see in your family, is revealed to you very soon.((HUGS))

    ReplyDelete
  9. Tesney - this is such a double-edged sword. I know that you are being very strong and I admire your sweet reaction. I do know that you are devestated also. I have learned so much from your posts and I am still following your family. I know that there are big things to come and a special child out there waiting for you. Blessings and prayers! :)

    ReplyDelete
  10. Tesney- we are so sorry. Praying for you and your little family.

    ReplyDelete
  11. So sorry....there really are no other words right now..

    ReplyDelete
  12. I am proud of you guys. God's timing is always right. And His will is always best.

    In His Love,
    d

    ReplyDelete
  13. Tesney, I am tearful right now as I read this. I know you had welcomed him into your hearts and your life already. I will be constantly praying for you, Greg and Clayton during the next few weeks. I also pray that God will shine in BIG ways during this time!

    ReplyDelete
  14. I just started following your story last night but even still I am heartbroken and scared(we are adopting from Russia). What you wrote though, in your time of grief was so beautiful, to be so kind instead of angry, you must be such a beautiful person. I am so so very sorry for your loss. Praying for your family.

    ReplyDelete
  15. Oh Tes, my heart is breaking for you. I know how much a part of your life and your family Sergey has already become. I am praying for you, Greg, and Clayton. I love you so much and I truly believe that God is in control and HE has a great plan for your family and for Sergey.

    ReplyDelete
  16. Oh man. That's tough (an understatement, I know). Praying for the best and peace for all involved.

    ReplyDelete
  17. Tesney, I pray your spirit isn't broken- may God give you, Greg & Clayton strength, peace, and joy... Your journey has definitely been an inspiration and source of encouragement for many others {myself included}--- blessings to y'all!

    ReplyDelete
  18. We love you and are praying for God's perfect plan to unfold for you and for Sarge.

    ReplyDelete
  19. Tes, I am so sorry for your heart. I am really understanding that this journey of foreign adoption does not always work out the way we want. God is also teaching me to trust in HIM and his perfect plan. Your heart is so beautiful as i hear you surrender this beautiful little boy into the hands of God with full gratitude that Sarge will be loved and cherished ... even if it means he is not in your family. Please know I am praying for you. Praying for peace and direction as you walk through this "dark spot".

    Peace and Blessings,
    Sara

    ReplyDelete
  20. What a hard thing to be going through! After the months of Serge being a part of your family in your hearts. Im so sorry. Praying for your hearts to heal and to give your love to another orphan.
    Nance

    ReplyDelete
  21. My heart was pounding as I was reading that! I'm so sorry. So, so, so very sorry. Love to all of you!

    ReplyDelete
  22. im so sorry you lost the child of your heart. sending hugs...rachel

    ReplyDelete
  23. I am so sorry I can't imagine what you are going through. I am in about the same stage as you in my adoption and I know how much I love Duncan and can't imagine this happening. I will be praying for you. It is good that he will have a family that loves him, but I know it is hard. Maybe God has a different plan, there is a child that needs you and your family so much more. I hope you do adopt Krill it seems his time is running out. God Bless you and your family I will continue to pray for you.

    ReplyDelete
  24. I'm praying for you guys and I'm going to keep praying for Sarge and the MOE that everything works for God's glory.

    ReplyDelete
  25. Tesney, I hadn't read this back story...that is AWESOME how God worked things out. I'm sure you have great peace knowing this is all in His hands =)

    Much love to your family!

    ReplyDelete